Your emotions are your superpower

What would happen if you paid attention to your emotions like they were a superpower?

I learned as a young child to suppress my emotions in different ways. I became a master of distraction through busyness (a working progress!). I mistook people-pleasing for pleasure, connection, and relief that it made me acceptable to others. I began drinking at a young age and often felt angry.

I always thought I was good at expressing myself because I wasn’t afraid to show people how I felt. I was comfortable with anger, brashness, a verbal punch-in-the-face “f*ck you” if someone pissed me off. And yet, if I was hurt, I was always “fine”, always optimistic, always okay. A true M-A-S-T-E-R of distraction and avoidance. Although I felt strong and resilient, vulnerability was not on my radar.

I’ve learned to dialogue with my emotions and recognise where they live in my body.

If this feels foreign, uncomfortable, or even silly, imagine what life would be like if you could pay attention to your emotions as though they were an innocent child standing in front of you? Non-judgemental. Needing your help. Could you accept what they’re saying as valid and be curious enough to ask, “Hey, what are you trying to tell me?”.

Practise acknowledging where your feelings sit in your body. Get to know yourself. Today, I’ll use anger as an example, though this applies to any emotion. For me, anger feels like fiery heat around my chest, neck, mouth, cheeks, and forehead, the back of my neck and the top of my head. It feels like a hot shield protecting me. That makes sense, because I notice anger arises when a core value of mine is being compromised and needs protecting.

What emotion has felt most alive for you recently? Where does it sit in your body? Does it have a shape, a colour, an intensity? Is it soft or hard? What size is it? Does it fill your whole body, or is it isolated to one area?

Channelling our emotions in healthy ways helps us move out of (in my case) that reactive “f*ck you” state and into a more powerful, responsive one. With practise, you will become emotional fit, know yourself on a deeper level, build strong boundaries, close and healthy relationships and experience long lasting healing.

Our emotions are gifts from our psyche.

Anger tells us something we value must be protected.

Fear tells is action needs to be taken.

Sadness tells us we need to release and restore.   

Our emotions tell us so much about ourselves and our beliefs, our values, what we learned from our parents and culture, and how we adapted to survive, sometimes through trauma. There is so much richness and growth in giving our emotions attention. When we do, we become more compassionate with ourselves and therefore others.

In our sessions together, we muscle test the underlying emotions connected to your issues. I hold a safe, compassionate, and non-judgemental space for you to process whatever arises.

Emotions are a gift, your superpower - a portal to your soul. They answer questions. They give us direction.

I look forward to exploring your emotions with you.

Love Kirst X

For appointments in person, I am at LiveWell Rozelle on Fridays

Online appointment email kirsten@kirstenjade.com